Last week I wrote to tell you about Alexi’s report card. Today (I finally remembered) I proudly bring you Rian’s report card.
Her best grade was in Technology (it was an intro to Tech and covered Horticulture, Machining and Design). Rian earned an 83. I was pleased. Her math mark was in the high 70s. Given that her final math grade in gr. 8 was just over 50%, I’m very pleased with her progress.
She managed to pull her French-language Geographie mark up over 10% and pulled up her Enlgish grade by about 20%. I was very proud of her for pulling her grades up, but was still discouraged because I know she’s capable of much higher grades.
However, I decided to follow the advice given by my blogging friend, Larry, over at Me, Myself and Kids. Larry advised I tell the kids how I feel – that I’m proud of them and feel they can do great things.
Here’s how it would have gone had I used the word “but”(this is how poor Alexi received his accolades):
“I’m so proud of you for pulling your grades up, but I know you can do better.”
Now, how does this sound?:
“I’m so proud of you for pulling your grades and I know you will do great.”
By changing the demoralizing “but” to “and”; “can” to “will” and “better” to “great” I think the message was much more encouraging (I spoke to Alexi again, told him what I had said the first time wasn’t exactly what I meant…he liked the second comment much better).